As of the date of this post, there are still many people suffering the consequences of Hurricane Irma in Florida and Hurricane Harvey in Texas. We live in South Florida and were very lucky to get our power back quickly, and suffered minimal damage to our property. For us, life has returned to normal. But for so many others, it’s a continuing nightmare. I just wanted to send heartfelt wishes to those who are still struggling to recover soon.
Well, I’m back. Since my last episode in February. I took a much needed break. My mind began to clear. And a few ideas emerged and began to take shape, which I’ll tell you about shortly.
In today’s episode, I’m going to:
Share a letter I wrote to a friend who is struggling with compulsive spending.
Tell you about my spending plan training programs.
Explain the new format for the “I Can’t Stop Spending!” website.
Photo by gnuckx [CC BY 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
00:35 Letting GoThis episode is different from all the others because I need to pause production on the podcast for now. In this 16 minute episode, I begin by talking about the purpose of the “I Can’t Stop Spending!” podcast and how I got sober with money.
And I end today’s show with the remarkable poem I stumbled upon yesterday that was the catalyst for today’s episode.
04:20 How this Podcast Came to Be
I explain how a 40 year dream evolved into this podcast thanks to Cliff Ravenscraft!.
06:31 Why I Need to Pause Production on This Podcast
In this section, I discuss the practical reasons for the pause and talk about where I am thinking of going with my work. I also talk about integrity around anonymity and recovery work (DA’s Tradition 11), the slippery slope of monetizing service work, and overdoing service work to the point that it is a symptom of underearning.
10:20 Hundreds of Articles are Available on Recovery from Compulsive Spending at My Blog
In the meantime, my blog – Getting Out from Going Under – has hundreds of posts giving you practical instructions around all manner of topics, from spending plans to relationships to working the steps, and more, plus many other posts dealing with recovery from compulsive spending. I plan to continue writing posts for the blog. And I’ve got an idea that’s been rolling around in my mind for another book to help compulsive spenders. Plus, I’m writing on Medium.com (@moneysober) about more general topics.
00:48 Resisting that Irresistible Urge to Spend
I read from an article I found about a woman in the U.K. who is pleading for help to keep from compulsively spending the rent money she hasn’t been able to pay for six months, due to a problem with the landlords.
00:52 Five Reasons to Ignore Valentine’s Day
In today’s podcast, I try to help you get right-minded about Valentine’s Day. Once you listen to this episode, I guarantee you won’t ever look at it the same way! I’ve posted a more extensive article on the subject, called “Why I Ignore Valentine’s Day and Why You Should Too” on Medium.
Click here to read the “Getting Out from Going Under” blog post for this episode.
00:50 Losing Your Balance
I’ve gained and lost five sponsors/action partners in various 12-Step programs over the past year. I’m feeling some fresh pain around this topic so I thought it was worth exploring. I talk about how unsettling it is to lose relationships in recovery, whether it’s a sponsor, action partner, or just someone in your network of support, and how to regain your balance despite the loss.
It’s an exciting idea, but is a really extreme step for someone who is still compulsively spending. I talk about the dangers of swinging from extreme to extreme and why it’s best to just live the middle way instead.