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00:35 Letting GoThis episode is different from all the others because I need to pause production on the podcast for now. In this 16 minute episode, I begin by talking about the purpose of the “I Can’t Stop Spending!” podcast and how I got sober with money.
And I end today’s show with the remarkable poem I stumbled upon yesterday that was the catalyst for today’s episode.
04:20 How this Podcast Came to Be
I explain how a 40 year dream evolved into this podcast thanks to Cliff Ravenscraft!.
06:31 Why I Need to Pause Production on This Podcast
In this section, I discuss the practical reasons for the pause and talk about where I am thinking of going with my work. I also talk about integrity around anonymity and recovery work (DA’s Tradition 11), the slippery slope of monetizing service work, and overdoing service work to the point that it is a symptom of underearning.
10:20 Hundreds of Articles are Available on Recovery from Compulsive Spending at My Blog
In the meantime, my blog – Getting Out from Going Under – has hundreds of posts giving you practical instructions around all manner of topics, from spending plans to relationships to working the steps, and more, plus many other posts dealing with recovery from compulsive spending. I plan to continue writing posts for the blog. And I’ve got an idea that’s been rolling around in my mind for another book to help compulsive spenders. Plus, I’m writing on Medium.com (@moneysober) about more general topics.
Read the post for this podcast on our sister site: Getting Out from Going Under
In this Episode
1:03 Paradoxical Reactions
I talk about my experience with medication where I have the opposite reaction from what is intended, and explain why that is similar to how many of us react around the holiday. Then, I give a couple of suggestions about how to move past the possibly negative emotions we experience during this time of year.
08:57 Preparing for Next Year
I talk about how you can move out of the negative emotions that surround the holidays by preparing for next year. I give you a two-step process to follow. The first part is looking at your accomplishments from the year just past and setting some goals for the upcoming year.
But I give very specific instructions on the types of goals it’s best to set and why certain goals will just set you up for failure. Plus, I talk to you about the process of using a “God box” (make your own and call it whatever you’d like – “Higher Power box,” “HP box,” “Sacred box,” “Fred’s box,” you get the idea).
At time stamp 13:20, I talk specifically about what types of goals to set if you are a compulsive spender still in the throes of your addiction.
After listening, I’d love to hear about your accomplishments and goals. Just leave them in the Comments section of this episode (below)!
I scrap my planned podcast to talk about the best movie I have seen in a long, long time! “Don’t Think Twice” is a dark comedy that contains powerful and profound lessons about fame, friendship, and relationships. Warning: If you have ever yearned for fame, missed out on fame, or ever experienced fame, be sure to take a box of kleenex to the movie!
I have so much to share with you about my continuing KonMari decluttering journey – but just ran out of time to prepare the podcast for this week. I have some great resources that will really help compulsive spenders get willing to let go of old stuff and shift their perspective about bringing more stuff in.
2:54 Being Taken in When You Want to Believe
I read and react to this excerpt from a get rich quick school’s playbook, sharing three examples in my own life of how I have allowed myself to be taken in (and taking responsibility for my part in it).
This is the script the sales rep is to follow when the potential student says they don’t like using credit cards and going into debt OR they just paid their credit cards off: Continue reading →